Some survivors are perfectionists, if they can’t do something perfect, they won’t do it at all. Some survivors are performance driven, working hard to convince everyone — including themselves — that they’re valuable. And some survivors play it safe, seeking to be invisible, often living smaller than they should.
I want to focus on that dynamic for a moment.
Perhaps small living comes from the desire not to be noticed; just blend in and no one will hurt me again
we tell ourselves. But living small — keeping it safe by making easy choices, doing just enough to get by, refusing to … Continue Reading ››
I really do own a pair of rose-colored glasses. When I’m wearing them, life looks great. Besides appearing quite fashionable, my surroundings become bright and cheery. Flowers are touched with hints of rose glow; the sky dusted with shades of pink radiance. I feel warm, at peace with the world, I am happy.
Sounds nice doesn’t it? But wait…there’s another story.
I also have a pair of brown sun glasses. When I’m sporting these, those warm hues of rose are missing. Instead, the horizon feels dull and drab. I’m tired. I want to take a nap.
My outlook is altered by the choice … Continue Reading ››
Have you ever heard the voice deep down inside of your being that whispers, "I believe I’m made for something great", or "I long for more, I want my life to count?"
I imagine each one of us have heard those soft utterings at sometime in our life. That voice is our significance talking, calling out to move us into our purpose. It’s speaking because God has placed the gene of significance, greatness, and purpose within us. He intended that one day we would awaken to our true selves, as we listen to the cry within.
But all too often, our significance … Continue Reading ››
I understand that changing the way you think will take some practice, after all by the time you were 8 years old, psychologists predict you’ve heard the word No
over 40,000 times, while hearing the word Yes,
only 5000. You’ve been wired for NO, but be encouraged—in the process of transforming and reprogramming your mind, you’ll get re-wired.
God’s Word tells us to be transformed by the “renewing of our mind.” Our mind must undergo a metamorphosis, a change. This change happens by the power of the Holy Spirit and our purposeful decision to change what we focus on.
Our focus is … Continue Reading ››
Do you believe God has a YES for You? Learn how to think and believe like it!
Difficult seasons of life come to all of us. Learn how to survive through painful, trying seasons and endure until a new season comes.
Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.
- Delight in God
Psalm … Continue Reading ››
I wish I had a different story. I wish it wasn’t one of fiery trials and shameful ashes. But I don’t. My story is what it is. But, what I do have is the power to decide how my story will end. And you do too. We can choose our future by:
- Choosing to no longer be a victim.
- Choosing to start a healing journey.
- Choosing to live life brave and free.
I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I tell my story so others can draw encouragement and be inspired to start their own conversation, and eventually, gain empowerment … Continue Reading ››
Haven't I commanded you? Strength! Courage! Don't be timid; don't get discouraged. God, your God, is with you every step you take."
:9 –The Message
Courage. It originally comes from the Latin word Cor
Living with courage is living with all your heart. It’s living out your dreams in spite of the presence of doubt and fear; willing to risk failure in order to be true to yourself and the authentic person God created you to be.
Author, Piers Anthony says this about courage:
“Being terrified but going ahead and doing what must be done—that's courage. The one who feels no … Continue Reading ››
How do you handle the negative story your mind is telling you?
The carnal command center of our brain often whispers juicy tidbits about others and ourselves. Unfortunately, those negative nuggets usually come from the enemy or our own selfish nature.
How do we strike them down? Or do we listen to the story and add other embellishments, then take it as truth?
The problem with brain gossip—the story we tell ourselves about ourselves or others—goes through our own motive filters
instead of the Word of Truth. The story we ruminate on is a reflection of what we
truly think and believe and … Continue Reading ››
This week I welcome Guest Blogger, Gail Mulczynski.
JOY: AWARENESS AND EXPERIENCES OF JOY AS A SURVIVOR OF ABUSE AND/OR TORTURE
There is a street musician, a drummer, in my city who brings joy to my heart and others. This performer wears an African mask and a costume as he drums. I have witness the changes in his performances over the years I have watched him. This season, he has welcomed children, teens, and adults to drum along with him. I sit, listen, watch, and enjoy. The rhythm of his drumming brings calmness within … Continue Reading ››