“Bring back the sun.” said the security guard at Gerald R. Ford International Airport. I smiled and said, “I will!” I was off to Arizona and when you live in Michigan, (otherwise known as the frozen tundra) any trip to warmer weather brings an envious response from those left behind. Winters are long and brutal—we hunger for the sunshine.
My smile lingered as I walk down the jet way and boarded the plane. Of course, I can’t really bring back the sunshine
. That’s silly
. No one actually believes sunshine can be transported. I may be influential but I don’t have that kind … Continue Reading ››
My Guest Blogger today is Shelly Beach. She is my dear friend, co-survivor, and my wonderful mentor. Welcome Shelly!
Most of us want to help friends who are suffering and grieving. The problem is, we often struggle to know what to say or do. And so we say things that make sense to us.
The problem is that we’ve probably never experienced the pain our friend is going through and don’t have a clue what their suffering feels like.
Most people who are hurting can tell horrifying stories about the insensitive and … Continue Reading ››
April is national sexual assault awareness month
by Dawn Scott Jones
I wish I had a different story. I wish it wasn’t one of horrific pain that left my life in a pile of ashes, filled with shame and sorrow. But I don’t have a different story.
What I do have, however, is the power to decide how my story will end.
Today I look at myself in the mirror and choose not to be a victim any longer. Today I choose healing. Today I choose life. I’m a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I tell my story hoping that others … Continue Reading ››
What if I told you, you could live more than an existence—a full life, free of the victim mind-set and self-inflicted trouble that occurs when you believe the lie that whispers you are forever “damaged-goods?”
Private pain creates an isolation and loneliness that’s difficult to describe much less endure. It lingers, hovering like an oppressive cloud just over our heads, making life lack-luster and bland. The power of Understanding breaks that oppression.
Baby-Steps are the key to arriving at your goals, over-coming addictions, accomplishing new skills, gaining better health, and all of life’s desired results.
In the emotional realm when hurt and pain leaves us wounded and feeling vulnerable, Instead of enjoying the life and zeal of those around us, we often tend to become avoidant, steering clear of human interaction.
I call it Soul-Guarding.
Heather seems to be a nice and confident girl. She freely communicates through writing and texting, but in person she is completely withdrawn. Her non-verbals scream a clear message, “Stay away from me.” She intentionally rejects any display of warmth while in person, yet later through writing she will open up.
Jessica is shy, yet friendly, until you engage her more personally. Then she coils up and … Continue Reading ››
Learning to Feel again after trauma is scary and temporarily painful. But feeling what you’re feeling is a powerful step to healing, as we learn to process the past instead of numbing out.
I denied the thought that I could have further complications from sexual abuse saying, “I’ve dealt with it, and I’m healed. There’s nothing more to talk about.” I was terrified to consider the residue of sexual abuse and how it had harmed me.
I’m not alone. Many survivors tend to minimize or dismiss the impact of their abuse by reasoning, “Oh it’s in the past. It’s no big deal.” Others deny that the sexual abuse took place at all. The pain is too deep and overwhelming to face. When the slightest reminder … Continue Reading ››
You are not alone.
Many women have been where you are--more than once. And they made it through. You will too. Whatever you are going through today will only serve to make you stronger, if you allow God to use it in your life to shape you and perfect you.
Satan, of course would love to use it to destroy you and cause you to quit. You may feel like there is no way you can survive this painful trial you are encountering, but I am here to say... in fact, we all … Continue Reading ››